No session on on Friday, 11/26. Happy Thanksgiving!

Upcoming Parenting Sessions

When Reprimands Work – November 23, 2010

            Reprimands are verbal or non-verbal signs of disapproval (e.g., “stop that!” or frowning and head shaking). Many parents find that reprimands are not effective; however, using them correctly and in combination with the other skills we have learned so far, can help with undesirable behavior. We will be covering ways to use reprimands effectively and to apply these skills at home. 

      

Resolving Conflicts Within the Family – December 7, 2010

            Managing problems that come up effectively can really influence how family members get along. Now that we have the basic skills in place, for our last meeting we will talk about ways to handle problems that come up within the family.

Catching Up on Parenting Sessions

Using Time Outs Effectively – November 2, 2010

            When kids break the rules, many parents and teachers use time out to address the problem. But time out is often misunderstood and used in a way that makes it much less effective. During this session, we will be talking about how to use time outs effectively in your home.

Attending & Ignoring: Choosing When to Respond & Problem Solving– November 16, 2010

            Do you ever find yourself annoyed by your child’s whining, complaining, or noisiness? Noticing when your child is doing something desirable and choosing not to pay attention to undesirable behavior can be very helpful in reducing minor problems. We will be discussing these ideas in more detail and talking about how they might apply to your family, and we will address any problems that have come up as you have attempted to apply these parenting methods within your family.

     

Tuesday's Session Cancelled, 10/26/10

There will be NO Play Fit-Stay Fit! Tuesday, 10/26/10.  
Our next session will by this Friday at 6:15 PM. 

Sorry for any inconvenience. 

Parenting Session 1: Defining Behavior

by Katherine Lent

We had our first 'Parenting Session' Tuesday night at PFSF. We are learning to help our children learn to do more positive things and learn to do fewer negative things. If you miss a class, ask Darla and Autumn for a hardcopy of the missed material.

We discussed why defining behavior is important. Actions are behaviors; thoughts, feelings and attitudes are not behaviors. Behaviors may be influenced by environment.

The ABC's of behavior are:

A-Antecedent: 
The setting or context that occur before behavior and influence behavior.

B-Behavior: 
What the child does or does not do.

C- Consequence:
Events that follow behavior and may influence future behavior.


We discussed prompting positive behaviors. We discussed ways that we could be more clear and specific in our directions for children.

* Be specific and clearly define our instruction
* Be calm
* Keep a positive, neutral tone.
* Avoid phrasing in questions such as " Will you please put on your shoes?"

We also discussed trying to keep a less frustrated attitude as parents.


For next session (Tues. 10/19) think of what behaviors you would like to work on and start observing how often the behavior occurs.

Problem Behaviors/Positive Opposite Behaviors:

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Daily rewards for positive behavior:

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Observe for behavior for ONE hour each day:

I haven't started yet, but I plan to document Corinne's wierd and wonky noises. She make a lot of monstery vocalizations. I guess when I do the documenting I will find out exactly 'when' and 'where' she is doing this and hopefully will get to the 'why' and STOP!!

In the meantime, this morning I kept MY attitude in check and Corinne was very compliant
AND took initiative in her own self care routine this morning. I gave
lots of praise and offered her a surprise reward when she comes home today.

PROGRESS!!

What have you observed or learned this week??

comment below...

New Parenting Skills Program

Play Fit Stay Fit! is excited to announce that this fall we have a new psychosocial program which will be conducted by Dr. Darla Broberg from SBUMC and Autumn Kujawa, a psychology doctoral student from SBU. The basis for most of their sessions will be the "Kazdin Parenting Method".

These sessions will be conducted on Tuesday nights beginning this Tuesday 9/21 and continue for a total of 8 sessions. We will also have 4 sessions of nutrition on opposing Tuesday nights.

Sessions Outline:

1. Defining Behavior & Positive Opposites
2. Rewarding Positive Behavior & Shaping Behavior (with explanation of reward charts) 
3. Using Time Outs Effectively
4. Attending & Ignoring: Choosing When to Respond
5. Review & Problem-Solving
6. When Reprimands Work
7. Resolving Conflicts Within the Family

Register now for PFSF Fall Session, Begins 9/21

The upcoming fall session of PFSF! will commence on Tuesday, September 21st.   

As in the past, the program will run on Tuesdays from 6 PM to approximately 7:30 PM 
and on Fridays from 6:15 - 7:15 PM.  

The program will run for 12 consecutive weeks through Friday, December 10th.

To register please call Ray McKenna at 444-6169 or email at raymond.mckenna@stonybrook.edu.

Returning members need not register.  

Begins Tuesday, September 21st

Every Tuesday, 6pm - 7:30pm
Every Friday, 6:15pm - 7:15pm

Ends Friday, December 10th